By Linnea Sheldon There are some things that everyone should remember when going out on a first date. Most of them seem pretty obvious, but with so many changes in the dating scene combined with the fast paced world we live in they can be easy to forget. Read through this list and refer back to it before any first date. We all know we could use a little reminder here and there. One of the most important (and obvious) things to remember on a first date is to be on time. I know it seems like common sense, but sometimes runs in our stockings, or uncooperative hair, or a really mesmerizing television show can set us back a little longer than we planned for. This is why its always important to give yourself a small window of time for circumstances beyond our control. Even if it means we have to drive around the block a few extra times at least well be making a good first impression. The next rule is to leave the cell phone off, or at least turn it to silent. Not even a peep or a vibration should come out of it during the entire date. Not only does it show the person you are out with that they are not important, it also signals that you may be a little self-centered and selfish, and that certainly isnt going to get you a second date. The only exceptions to the phone off rule are if you are waiting for an important phone call or you left the kids with a sitter (and by important we mean your best friends going into labor - important). If you are in a situation like this be sure to inform your date of it beforehand so he understands you will need to check your phone periodically. Another thing to remember on a first date is to allow for equal talk time. This may be hard to judge, but try practicing around friends or family first. You shouldnt be talking the entire time while you make your date listen to your ramblings. On the flip side you need to have something to say. If you stay quiet the entire time youre date will not only not have a chance to get to know you, but he may also feel uncomfortable because he is being forced to do all the talking. If you feel like you are doing a little too much talking try asking questions, let him tell you a little about himself, and never, ever over share or use him as a person to vent to. This brings up another important point. When asking questions be sure to not make your date feel like he is on an interview. Questions about work and family life are important when getting to know someone, but try to steer away from the serious questions and quizzing him about his life. Ask questions about what he enjoys doing in is free time, find something you have in common and discuss it, and never, never ask about past relationships! When some of us get nervous we have tendency to drink too much. This is another big dont. The last thing we want our date to remember about us is our ability to hold our liquor. Not to mention who knows what is gonna slip out when were under the influence. You probably want to remember the date too, so if you are going to drink be sure to keep yourself in control. It is very important to give a date your undivided attention when out with him. Dont be looking around the room, even if youre just being nosy. Your date may feel as if hes boring you, or you are looking for something better. Dont invite your friends out with you either, or take your date somewhere you know they will be. If you are on a date you should be paying attention to your date. If you bring him around a group of people he may feel unimportant, or he may get the impression that he is being judged or you cant think for yourself. Always meet in a public place for safety reasons, but if you are so uncomfortable with someone that you feel you need to bring a friend along then you should just call the whole thing off. What all of these tips are basically suggesting is that you need to be polite on your date. Pretend your mom is watching you, always say please and thank you, never make him feel uncomfortable, and dont be self-centered. This advice doesnt just apply to your date, but also to your waiter or waitress, the hostess, the bus boy, and anyone else you come in contact with. Linnea Sheldon is a fitness insturctor and freelance writer living in Central Massachusetts. She has her own dating website and has written dating and health and fitness articles for many different publications. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Linnea_Sheldon http://EzineArticles.com/?What-Not-to-Do-On-a-First-Date&id=359812 effects of ativan
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